5 Things You Can Do To Make Sure You’re Hiring a Reputable Boudoir Photographer
So how can you make sure that you’re hiring someone who is reputable?
Someone who isn’t going to be lax in security, allowing your photos to fall into the wrong hands?
Someone who will treat you like a queen, instead of a number, or even worse, an object?
MAN I can really get on my soapbox about this.
Boudoir has exploded – which is amazing – but also leaves room for scam artists and creepers. If you want to read more articles that I’ve written on how to choose and hire your boudoir photographer, instead of relying on the best boudoir photographer sticker on a website, click here.
Here are five things you can do to make sure you’re not hiring a scam artist or a creeper – and please know that there is NO PERFECT way to know that with 100% certainty, but this is a good start.
1. Ask around locally.
Friends, family, neighbors, moms groups and more. I realize this might be scary if you don’t know someone well, particularly if you want to keep your session discreet, but asking for personal recommendations is usually a very reliable way to get some good information. If you’re in any Facebook groups that cater to moms, you can also search for the word boudoir in the group – chances are that someone has asked in the past, and you can see recommendations without having to ask for yourself. The best boudoir photographer can be a name that you see pop up over and over again – usually if several people are recommending someone, there’s a reason.
2. Look at reviews.
I hesitated to add this one because we ALL know there are some crazies that will leave negative reviews just to be jerks, but look at the reviews with discretion. I’ve even had someone leave me a bad review because they didn’t deliver their eBay order and I asked for a refund – so they left me a negative review, despite never having worked with me. Pay attention, and know that even excellent businesses don’t necessarily have five star reviews on EVERY review.
3. Look at a photographer’s history.
Did they just start their business? This isn’t a bad thing – it could just mean they’re new. But look at their social media presence. Do they have their own client group with past clients? Do they have several years of social posts that are consistent, with consistent messaging? Or are they bashing women – even in a sly way – a year ago and now they’re all about empowering women with boudoir? Those are buzz words floating around that are very convenient, and yet I have watched people come and go that will talk trash about a woman’s body and then change their tune when they think that being a boudoir photographer will be a money maker. The best boudoir photographer usually has a history on social media or elsewhere, with articles or posts that should align with what you’re looking for. This does NOT mean that someone has to have been doing boudoir for a long time – several photographers start in other genres and move into boudoir. This also doesn’t mean that they are exclusively a boudoir photographer. But it should mean that their message is consistent, and that their work is consistent, which leads us to number four…
4. Look at their work.
Do their edits look consistent, or do you see one that is super over the top edited, and the next not at all? Do the whites of the eyes look WAY overdone (guilty here, I totally did that when I first started!), or do they have some work that looks extremely professional, and some that doesn’t? If you’ve followed these articles, you’ll know that photo stealers are REAL. Meaning that someone will use another photographer’s work to advertise, even though they’re not capable of producing the same level of work. Not only is it illegal, but it’s unethical. Additionally, sometimes photographers will show images that were taken at a workshop. Why does this matter? Because it could mean lighting, sets, and posing was all done by someone else – the instructor – and not the photographer themselves. They may not be able to produce the same level of work with a client.
5. Go with your gut and trust yourself.
If someone talks to you in a way that is demeaning or condescending, or you just feel YUCK after interacting with them, it’s not going to be a good fit. And in this case, it may not even mean that the photographer is a creeper – it might just mean that it’s simply not a good match. As women, we are blessed with intuition – don’t ignore it. You know those memes that ask something along the lines of “if you could go back and tell your 18-year-old self something, what would it be?” I wish I would have learned to trust myself much, much earlier than I did, and I want to encourage you to trust yourself. If you feel like something is off, even if you’re THERE and it feels wrong – you have every RIGHT to stop the session.
EVEN IF YOU DON’T HIRE ME for your boudoir session – I want you to be safe.
I want you to find the best boudoir photographer for you – and feel 100% comfortable with the person you choose, even if you’re nervous going into your session.
You should be nervous because you’re doing something that might be outside of your comfort zone, not because of someone that is behaving in an inappropriate way, or because someone doesn’t have the experience that this genre requires.
Your safety, your body, your peace of mind, and your confidence is of the utmost importance with ANY photo session, but especially with boudoir. “The best boudoir photographer” is a loose term that has zero regulation or requirement.